Archive: August 2007
* Men are dreaming of this sexy, passionate babe, fulfilling their dreams of the greatest sex in the world. She has to blow their brains, her brain is not so important.
* Women are dreaming of this sexy, passionate man, who is rich and very successful in business. The sex is important, but the career is much more important.
We live in a world, where money, power and sex are the most important aims to achieve, as it has always been in the history of human mankind. Only we have got images, too many images, burned into our brains by mass media, globalization etc. But the instruments to achieve money, power and sex have changed over the centuries.
To become a Bill Gates or Rupert Murdoch you need cleverness, education and hard work. But are they sexy? George Clooney and Brad Pitt are definitely sexy, but they also need cleverness, hard work and a certain education, only different from that of a manager. But are they good in bed? Who knows, because we only know the images, which they are playing in their professional and “private” life. What is behind all these images?
When we come to Germany, women like to complain that most men are not very good looking, not sexy or seductive, not strong, no fighters …and French men, or Italian men, or Spanish men are much better. The same could be said about German women. Most are not good looking, not sexy, not seductive, not as good in bed as they claim to be, not as strong as they claim to be, not as successful as they claim to be. But anyhow what are the scales of these subjective judgments?! Hasn’t the scale changed tremendously the last decades?
First of all there are always exceptions to the rule. For sure there are good-looking, seductive men in Germany. There are wealthy and intelligent men in management, science and politics. But are they sexy and good in bed? Some women may know. But again these are images created and controlled by these people. The point is, references have changed so much. In former times a man was a man, when he was great warrior like Russell Crowe in “Gladiator” or Achilles, alias Brad Pitt, in “Troy”. Nowadays a great warrior is the manager of the Gucci-Yves St. Laurent Empire or Bill Gates or David Beckham. So a young man has to cope with these different images and can easily fail, because the images are controlled by these men. The same goes for young women, who can easily fail looking only at the images of Marilyn Monroe, Madonna or Britney Spears.
Still men for centuries could rest just on their status being a man by birth, women never could. Even in modern families, the sons are protected and patronized by their mothers, while the girls have to work in the household. But slowly men are losing their status given by nature. They have to learn to fight again, but this is the problem. How can you fight in the modern world, when you were never taught to fight, when your fathers who could have taught you to fight were absent?
Nowadays many German men have no pride in themselves, no inner strength, no lust to seduce. They don’t flirt in the streets, they don’t take care of themselves or they tend to another extreme where they take care too much of themselves, thinking that beauty and muscles make a man a man. And by the way we can´t explain this phenomenon only with the destruction of the 3rd Reich, this would be too easy.
So how come? There are often spoiling mothers being tough on their daughters but not putting up limits to their sons. The fathers are absent, working, having no real interest in their kids. Or they have left their wife anyhow, leaving a single mother, who often develops anger towards men in general. Consequently a young boy grows up with a mixed relationship towards his own manhood. On one hand he learns a hateful image of his role model, his father but replaces him, becoming the “man in the family” very young. On the other hand, because he is the “head of the family”, he doesn’t need to fight, to learn, to seduce and to confront himself. Their mothers (and not only single mothers) give them everything too easily.
You can make reproaches to both sides. The mothers are abusing their sons because they need a “man in the house”. The fathers are disappearing because it is easier to search for a new woman than to have constant conflicts with their own woman and take responsibility for their lives.
Anyhow we live in an “easy going, cool society“ where you don´t want to fight too much. Please no trouble or conflicts, I am an individual! I insist on my rights! We avoid conflicts and instead we change jobs, friends, lovers, sex toys… I mean it is marvelous. But honestly it leads to nothing more than loneliness, anger, depression and grumbling about the other sex.
… The article is going to be continued in some days.